Comments on: How do you know if she’s faking it on the dance floor?

By: Tony

Tony — Sat, 30 May 2009 12:53:18 +0000

Sure fire indicators that a bad dance is coming your way.

1. You ask her to dance and the response you get is “Pardon?”, “Eh?” or “What?”, Like she didn’t hear you. I interpert this as she knows she not up to scratch but has not been on the scene long enough to come back with a preprepared refusal.

2. She says “I’m only a beginner.” I used to interpret this as modesty. No. it’s the truth. She’s only a beginner.

3. Someone approaches you and says, “Can you dance with my friend, she’s really good?”. Run a mile, fake a heart attack. Whatever you do avoid that person at all costs.

By: Jimmy L

Jimmy L — Thu, 07 May 2009 17:52:41 +0000

@Laura, what you are doing is rude. Doesn’t matter if you are doing it to regulars or non-regulars. You missed the point of having fun.

Gosh! Have fun and build a good rapport.

By: jovi

jovi — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 21:34:29 +0000

don’t wory
1.) different people-different preferences. in colombian style they do much footwork and not so many spinns.
2.) good lead is a powerfull tool, it can make a girl look good even she doesn’t have any rhythm.(well, it is no fun for a good leader, but maybe she will turn to a better dancer – more girls to dance with is definitely (this is the reason why there are more female than male people at the dance partys, we think strategic))

“Once, a female left me standing in the middle of the dance floor halfway through the song when I couldn’t tell whether I danced on 1 or 2.”
-whey you turn better and she asks you to dance with, you know what to do … do it for other beginner guys … no, was a joke to learn social jerk behaviors is definitely something you don’t want

By: Dave

Dave — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 04:27:38 +0000

Yep, I dislike those, too. lol

I think it’s common courtesy to try to provide yourself with preventive measures when going to the club to dance. If you know you sweat a lot and have the high potential of bad odor, take a shower right before going, or take a deodorant with you.

That’s probably the only time I actually come with an excuse to not dance with someone.

By: Dave

Dave — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 04:23:32 +0000

Oh my, have I been there.

1.) When she tries as much as possible to do footwork or free style rather than pairing up.

2.) When she dances worse than a beginner but as good as a professional with the ‘other guy’. lol

As for me, I try not to do anything that would discourage her. I’m still learning, and compared to the majority of the people at the club, I’m still in the beginning stage. Not everybody learns as quickly as others.

Once, a female left me standing in the middle of the dance floor halfway through the song when I couldn’t tell whether I danced on 1 or 2. I didn’t dance for a long time after that. lol

By: LBSources

LBSources — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 11:19:42 +0000

The last is hilarious SnowDancer!

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 21:07:21 +0000

NOW, HOW I DO FAKE IT!
1) I say, “I’m taking a break” but have NO SHAME to dance w/ the guy who comes by right after you.
2) I realize the dance sucks, so I don’t move as much.
3) I will look around to see other dancers and not look at you. I may say, “WOW look at them they’re good.” Yes, while dancing.
4) I will start messing up on simple combos. I’ll say, “I’m just tired..I’m sorry.” I’m really hoping the song will END.

I really do it to those dancers who are not regulars. Sometimes a girls got to do what a girls got to do. You know they’re guys out there w/ B.O. or need a mint or are simply rough!

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 19:54:30 +0000

1. She’s not shy to use her sexy moves. (If I’m having fun then I’ll use a few moves that I know!)
2. She’ll ask you for a dance next time she sees you at another event.
(I always ask this one guy who is still a beginner. BUT, his moves are great, timing is on point, and looks like he’s having fun.)
3. LAST, she’s willing to dance a close bachata dance w/ you.

By: lixonn

lixonn — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 17:08:00 +0000

! Good remarks SnowDancer especially the third one. (I need to practice too!) Your observations are really accurate I think.

I would add that when she looks somewhere far from you (almost constantly or even from time to time) you can read it as:
“Oh I wish the song would end…”,
“I wish he led me as the guy in that other pair”,
“I would like to be with my friends by the table”.

Note it might not be so easy to be seen as you may think.

By: SnowDancer

SnowDancer — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 23:05:11 +0000

Some others:

1. She asks to continue dancing the next song.
2. She exchanges phone #’s so she can find which club you’re going to (and then goes to the same club, not a different one:-)).
3. She buys you a drink and asks you to go home with her. I’m still waiting for this one… guess I need to keep practicing.:-)